[benyaoguai]

well..
PDA as in public disply of affection...

i just had a huge huge argument with my bro and my mom
because my bro is disgusted by me and my bf either when we're at school
or when he's waiting with me at my bus stop...
my bro thinks it's inappropriate for the 2 of us to be hugging at the bus stop...
i don't really think it's that bad...
i think my bro is more disgust just cuz he's a) bitter b) he's my bro...

and then he told me my mom.. so had this huge lecture thingy.. blah!


anyways~ i personally think i have tried to improve the situation in school
but it's really hard for me because everytime when someone else complain to me about it~ i of course want to respect other people and stuff... yet... when i tell my bf that other people are complaining .. he gets mad.. cuz he thinks it's none of other people's business..
and i'm constantly stuck in between...

and just really ticked me off that my brother had to tell on me to my mom...
as if i didn't try~~~ as if i'm fxxking incosiderate..
i think my bro needs to grow up =.=

phew...
okay.. i guess that's too much info~~~
what's your take on this?!

[CK]

i personally would not kiss or stuff in front of the public. maybe i'm more conservative, but i don't feel confortable when my friends french kiss or do other intimate stuffs in front of me.

there are several examples. i have a good friend. i remember everytime she sees her bf, they would french kiss for like three minute. i just find that weird, and i felt really uncomfortable.

and there was once at langara, when i was in the comp lab. i saw a couple in front of me. the girl was like sitting on the guy's lap and she was playing with the guy's nipples. it was just like.................................(i dunno how to even comment.)

then u often see white couples grabbing each other's ass when walking. what's up with that?

anyways, i'm okay with PDA to a certain extent. like holding hands and touch of lip kiss are okay for me. others, i guess i'm too conservative for those.

[benyaoguai]

well~ personally.. unless they're really really going at it
i have never felt uncomfortable to be around those people...
like if couple are hugging and giggle at bus stop.. i actually think it's sweet

and i was always okay with it~ both when i'm single and when i'm in a relationship

i searched online.. and.. i've seen some people who are only bitter about it when they're single~~ but they're fine with it when they have someone..
i think that's acceptable too

i'm just... really confused about this..
just cuz.. i know.. asian people probably are more likely to think it's inappropriate..
but... =.= i'm dating a white guy....
so... I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT'S WHAT NO MORE =.=

[CK]

i'm definitely not bitter about it coz i'm single.

i think it's just a culture difference, and i'm not comfortable seeing extreme PDAs.

[阿芸]

my bf doesn't like to get touchy touchy in public.
however, he loves to slap my ass whenever he gets the chance.
i think he has potential for sm.

oh, and to answer ur question,
i don't mind "PDA".
i dont really care about what other ppl think

AND NO, i dont think its inappropriate.
as much as he dislikes getting touchy touchy in public,
he still grabs my ass as i grab his.

[water]

i am one of those single bitter ppl..:laugh:
well..sometimes i think it' sweet..but sometimes i am just bitter and think it's really 礙眼...
but from wut i saw last time we went bowling, i think u and ur bf are ok ar~
u guys dont go over the line..
the only time PDA will make me feel uncomfortable is when they are just going at it like crazy..like pretty much having sex in public..than i will be like..WTF...=..="
but other than that i am pretty ok with it...i mean..i have to be..i hang out with couples ALL THE FREAKING TIME!!
lol..man i need some single friends..

but when i was with my ex..he wasnt a very affectionate person in public either..
he didnt even like kissing me in front of ppl..like just a touch lip kiss no french kiss~
sometimes he wont even hold my hand...
but i would say i am a fairly affectionate person in private or public~
so the way he treats me in public sometimes really piss me off..
cuz all the guy friends i have are very affectionate with their gf in public..
which just makes me arrrggg..so..i guess even when i wasnt single i was bitter..cuz my ex didnt like PDA :laugh:

[Nemo]

well... there are two ways to look at this thing...

A. if u and ur bf are totally independent and can be responsible for your own actions then it is none of other's business to jump into your relationship between you and ur bf. however, if u and ur bf are not fully mature yet then you are dependent to ur parents, so you must respact their opions and follow them if necessary.

B. i think we all agree that family is more reliable and will rarly let you down, so have faith in them is very important. i was dating this gal a long time ago, but i stop dating her after my bro told me some "not good" things about her. i dont think family members get bitter at u to see u do well. the only thing they worry about is probably ur future.

so i guess, i would say try to let ur bf understand that chinese are still more traditional and conservitive in man and woman relationship, so just try not to be too "touchy touchy" in public and especially infornt of ur family members. if he couldn't respact ur family's idea then it is likely he won't respact urs in the future....

[benyaoguai]

i'm definitely not bitter about it coz i'm single.

i think it's just a culture difference, and i'm not comfortable seeing extreme PDAs.

i'm not saying you are XD i'm just sharing what i read in some of the online forum discussions XD.. not u~~~ u no bitter~~ we all know what u're like~ so we know u're just bit more conservative.. XD

[benyaoguai]

my bf doesn't like to get touchy touchy in public.
however, he loves to slap my ass whenever he gets the chance.
i think he has potential for sm.

oh, and to answer ur question,
i don't mind "PDA".
i dont really care about what other ppl think

AND NO, i dont think its inappropriate.
as much as he dislikes getting touchy touchy in public,
he still grabs my ass as i grab his.

but i'd grab ur ass too ~~~ XD

[benyaoguai]

i am one of those single bitter ppl..:laugh:
well..sometimes i think it' sweet..but sometimes i am just bitter and think it's really 礙眼...
but from wut i saw last time we went bowling, i think u and ur bf are ok ar~
u guys dont go over the line..
the only time PDA will make me feel uncomfortable is when they are just going at it like crazy..like pretty much having sex in public..than i will be like..WTF...=..="
but other than that i am pretty ok with it...i mean..i have to be..i hang out with couples ALL THE FREAKING TIME!!
lol..man i need some single friends..

but when i was with my ex..he wasnt a very affectionate person in public either..
he didnt even like kissing me in front of ppl..like just a touch lip kiss no french kiss~
sometimes he wont even hold my hand...
but i would say i am a fairly affectionate person in private or public~
so the way he treats me in public sometimes really piss me off..
cuz all the guy friends i have are very affectionate with their gf in public..
which just makes me arrrggg..so..i guess even when i wasnt single i was bitter..cuz my ex didnt like PDA :laugh:

thank you


well... so far ...people all have different level of tolerance..
that's why i'm troubled....
cuz... i don't even know what level of PDA is appropriate.. and won't make people feel uncomfy...
cuz if too lil~~ my bf would be upset.. cuz that's not the kinda person he is
i am personally indifferent between more or less actually