[阿苦]

我有交過一個男朋友抽煙的
其實我不喜歡當老媽子每天囉哩八嗦
所以後來我就跟他說不準在我面前抽煙
再來就是如果抽了煙就不准離我太近更別說 kiss
所以他本來是抽滿多煙的..
後來變成一天頂多 1 根兩甚至快戒掉
而且他很乖抽了煙都會跑去洗澡刷牙 lol
我們出去的時候他就沒抽

[晴天]

有些情況你考慮一下是否會有不同

1. 你剛開始不知道他有抽煙, 有了感覺開始交往後才發現他抽煙

2. 你在剛認識他就知道他抽煙


兩者有很大的不同. 在 2 裡, 人在沒有任何感情或感覺時, 都可以靠理智去批判. 最重要的是當投入感情後那份理智還剩多少.

所謂情人眼裡出西施, 並不是空講的. 因為當你"愛"或"喜歡"上一個人時, 你的包容性會是意想不到地大. 所以一切還是個未知數.

剛開始知道而先制止自己不去接近或者先去排斥了, 當然便什麼都不會發生.



當然, 即使投入感情後仍堅守條件和喜好的還是有, 所以我上文用的形容詞是"大部分", 而不是絕對.

但是個人是否如自己"鐵齒"說的一樣, 這也不是我能去判斷你的. :)

unless the person tries to hide it
or else it would be pretty hard to not know bah?!
since i am not the type of person that would "fall in love with first sight"


if i find out after we are together..
i don't think i would want to continue the relationship either..
if he's the type of person that lies.. he will always lie

[blueice]

umm...

if i really fall in love with a girl smoker, i know i'll try my best to make her quit smoking. i absolutely detest girl smokers. i know i'm being sexist, but girls smokers do look 100x worse than guy smokers.

there is negotiation of bad habits in love, but smoking is definitely something that is not negotiable to me.

yah, I think most ppl would try to ask their bf/gf to quit smokin' if they hate it.

but my point is about "好惡分明"

You mite really detest gals who smoke, but if you fall in love w/ a gal who smokes...ok, you will try to make her quit. But will you detest your gf just cuz she smokes? If you two are already going out, you still detest smoking alrite, but will you view your gf w/ the same degree of detest as when you look at other gal smokers?

You'd probably detest a gal smoker, and not even approach her just cuz gal smokers look slutty and ugly. But when your gf smokes, would you try to break up or keep on trying to get her to quit?

:)

[blueice]

unless the person tries to hide it
or else it would be pretty hard to not know bah?!
since i am not the type of person that would "fall in love with first sight"


if i find out after we are together..
i don't think i would want to continue the relationship either..
if he's the type of person that lies.. he will always lie

hmm...it's not impossible though. Maybe he knows that you don't like smoking, OR for whatever reason, he just never happened to, OR, he might just not smoke that frequently so you didn't get a chance to find out.

so would you break up rite away, 放棄一段感情或感覺 just cuz he smokes? Like totally look at him w/ disgust?

btw, 如果他是 hide it from you, do you consider that as a unforgivable lie, so break up?

:spin:

[blueice]

let me put it this way.

if i see a girl smoker, no matter how beautiful, smart, talented, etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc she may be, i will still detest her just because she smokes.

i have asked tons of guys, and many of them have the same thoughts as me, including smokers as i mentioned earlier. i personally just can't stand girl smokers.

well, if you ask me, I'm like those tons of guys

I personally dun smoke, and dun like ppl who smoke

當然, 女生抽煙也就不喜歡. 如果有看到某女生抽煙我大概也就是轉過頭去不以為然吧.


不過我有幾位女性朋友, 在成為朋友之後才知道她們有抽煙, 但是這並不會讓我覺得她們 slutty or ugly.

就是有差別待遇. 批判不認識的人時就完全一點感情都沒有, 但是成為朋友後我卻能無所謂地包容.

如果去想想愛情的話, 當你愛上某個人時, 你也會很鐵齒地說, "靠, 抽煙的女人真骯髒", 然後因為你發現你的男/女友有抽煙, 所以就 "你真髒, 看起來真 slutty, 我要分手"這樣做嗎?

還是你會退一步, 只是努力不懈地要她戒掉?

我在想, 很多人發表言論時說得斬釘斷鐵, 是否表示當她們發現自己身邊人有抽煙時, 也是如此理智激烈地反應呢?


:)

[CK]

blueice, i guess the girl u like now currently smokes. i'm sorry if my point of views offended you.

but anyone who knows me well would know i absolutely hate smokers. i'm just expressing my point of views. sometimes, opinions don't really need logic, right? :)

[vvn1217]

i do hate ppl who smoke
i used to think that i'll never fall in love with a guy who smokes too
but then i was wrong
cuz my bf smokes...
he used to smoke like a few packs a day.. but then it's only about 3 cigarettes per week now

and yeah i think it's true that the majority of guys dun like girls who smoke...
my bf hates girls who smoke too..

oh and i still hate ppl who smoke

[阿苦]

yah, I think most ppl would try to ask their bf/gf to quit smokin' if they hate it.

but my point is about "好惡分明"

You mite really detest gals who smoke, but if you fall in love w/ a gal who smokes...ok, you will try to make her quit. But will you detest your gf just cuz she smokes? If you two are already going out, you still detest smoking alrite, but will you view your gf w/ the same degree of detest as when you look at other gal smokers?

You'd probably detest a gal smoker, and not even approach her just cuz gal smokers look slutty and ugly. But when your gf smokes, would you try to break up or keep on trying to get her to quit?

:)

我覺得看人吧
我知道有些人真的很討厭人家抽煙
一看到人抽煙就會反感
這樣的人.. 一開始看到人家抽煙就不會有興趣了
怎麼可能跟 smoker 變成男女朋友啊?

[阿苦]

hmm...it's not impossible though. Maybe he knows that you don't like smoking, OR for whatever reason, he just never happened to, OR, he might just not smoke that frequently so you didn't get a chance to find out.

so would you break up rite away, 放棄一段感情或感覺 just cuz he smokes? Like totally look at him w/ disgust?

btw, 如果他是 hide it from you, do you consider that as a unforgivable lie, so break up?

:spin:

如果他還沒交往的時候可以隱藏的那麼好
那麼他就 forever 繼續隱藏吧
跟我一樣就要求他不準給我聞道煙味
不准給我看到他抽煙 lol

[阿苦]

i do hate ppl who smoke
i used to think that i'll never fall in love with a guy who smokes too
but then i was wrong
cuz my bf smokes...
he used to smoke like a few packs a day.. but then it's only about 3 cigarettes per week now

and yeah i think it's true that the majority of guys dun like girls who smoke...
my bf hates girls who smoke too..

oh and i still hate ppl who smoke

wow that's a big change~~!! :good: