[Ghostling]

on a second thought....it's more of a "ask her to leave" or "kick her out" rather than "let her go" isn't it?
cos in this case she's not the one who wants to go...isn't it?

it's just a euphemism, I could have just used the word "dump" in place of 'let her go'

so your partner moved on to another dude, or his orientation is both ways? cuz' being your 'type' might complicate matters u know. can u be sure that he really did like guys too? or he might just be in for the hell of it.

[pc42884]

if you dumped a person because somebody else looks hotter, then you might want to date the person again just 'cause she looks hotter now......but that's not gonna be a stable/healthy relationship even if the two of you got together again

besides, hot girls can be seen everywhere nowadays with all sorts of make-up, push-up bras and other decorating clothes, so the real inner peronsality would count more once you got used to the person's look(probably take less than a month to get used to)

[Muccha]

First of all...I'm a girl and my x is a guy...and he moved on for another girl...cos i'm not "girly" enough (e.g-no push up bras or make ups or mini skirts)

Well...a guy friend told me that..it's what's inside that matters in a long term relationship...
but if the girl's not attractive enough they won't even wanna spend time to know how good the girl is inside...
and when they tell a hot hot girl that "it's ur inner beauty that attracts me"...it's mostly a lie because of course they r not gonna tell the girl "yah i'm after you cos u r hot"

Hot girls can be seen everywhere nowadays because they know that's the best way to get attention from guys...if guys r REALLY attracted to girls with inner beauty...there will be more girls who read real books, do volunteer works, take cooking/sewing classes, and go to church on Sunday mornings
And i guess some guys would say" well there r so many girls out there it's hard to tell which one's the real good one so the easiest way is by how they looks"
So i guess that still means guys will chose a better looking girl when it's time to decide...
Or there wouldn't be the rule that "the guy who lose the bet will have to give the ugliest girl in the group a ride" as a "punishment"..even tho the ugliest might be, among all the girls, the best girl...

So if that's the case...i think guys will be p*ssed when they see the one they dumped become hotter and better...

[Ghostling]

i knew u were lying when u said u were a gay.

here's how the selection process works from a guy's point of view. Begins with the attraction stage. For a guy, how can he tell if a girl has substance or not when they hardly know each other?

Even if the girl might know how to cook, how to sew, the girl wouldn't be revealing all these things to the guy if the guy didn't express interest first. What we CAN determine from the first impression tho, is how hot the girl is; it's the only quality we can rely on at this stage.

Then it's the honey moon stage, when the couple just begins their relationship. Everything seems perfect because both of these partners are cautious as to not ruin things so quickly.

And then, comes the nasty part. The couple gets used to each other, and gets too comfortable with each other. Usually the girl starts to not notice her disrespect for the guy, throws fits, make unreasonable demands, lie, start checking out other guys. And because all these things are happening, the guy quickly loses patience and interest for his partner.

From there it's just fight after fight. If the couple can hold on through all the fights, then maybe they'll be fruitful. Otherwise, one or the other moves on.

[Muccha]

lol i wasn't lying...
my friends told me i got a gay soul trapped in a girl's body...and i was just quoting what they told me....
So I guess you r telling me that..yes guys like hot girls because that's what they can only rely on in the first place.

Plus...yes some girls can be demanding, nagging, emotional, selfish, self centered, flirty, bossy, and even b*tchy as time goes on...but please note that this is not a one way street...if there r problems with girls then there will be problems with guys...and vice versa...
and no matter how unreasonable the girl is...it's the guy's decision to be with the girl in the first place...
If you have problems with the person, go solve the problem with the person.
"You are responsible of what you chose", that's what i've learn and tried to do in my past ** years ...

[Ghostling]

oh, don't get me wrong, I just used those things as an example of what typically goes wrong. It can come from guys too. It's just that shit does happen... a lot.

yes, everyone must take responsibility of their own choices. but how do we make an informed choice until we're past the honey moon stage to find out all the things we have to put up with maybe for the rest of our lives? I think the choosing really only begins after the honey moon stage. Anything before that is a rushed choice and very often a mistake.

[aezs]

Yup...newly dumped....
and it's a pretty disgusting break up....

What happened?

[Muccha]

What happened?

well...it's complicated...
but to put things short...i guess he's just got sick of me (1.75 yr relationship) and wanna find some other girl and wanna keep me as a spare tire.
He never know what he wanted and i always know too much...

[Ghostling]

girls always thinks they know everything..

[Muccha]

oh yah?
then guys never know when girls know that they are lying~
Some guys when they start to lie they'll never stop