[冷楓]

跟哪個在一起比較舒服 比較開心 也比較少遷就
長痛不如短痛
如果你所謂的愛人 無法讓你只愛他一人
那又何苦拖下去
就算你們以後結了婚
你會不會後悔現在放棄的那個很合得來的?
會不會三心兩意
會不會再不愉快的時候自問
如果當初跟另一個在一起 就不會這樣


感情
我覺得我們大多數的人 都知道怎麼處理
或者是 知道自己會怎麼處理 (儘管你的方式不是最好的)
有時猶豫 會想找個人認同自己 才會放膽去做
大概是多少有點在意別人的看法吧

[tonari]

最初由 benyaoguai 發表
it's not very simple to explain


it's da feel of both party
how they both feel about their relationship~~~





like.. u said they're stable~~ are they stable boring?
or stable in love? or stable just care about each other?!

stable boring law!
tha's what i think!

[tonari]

最初由 water 發表
in 5 yrs..u'll know ur lover very well..
u'll know what he/her pet peves are and what he/she like to drink in the morning and so on..
and when a new person u JUST met..
turns out to be almost like u..(only different gender)
it's all new and exciting...
but is it worth jepordizing ur current relationship??



i wouldnt break up the 5 yr relationship..
i mean u spend 5 yrs in that relationship for a reason...
new ppl can always be exciting..
but the excitment dies down..
just like when u first met ur lover..he/she was probablly exciting..
and that's what attracted u to him/her...
but u know what..if u break up with ur lover and go for the new person..
5 yrs later u'll find urself in the same place again..
and u'll have wasted another 5 yr building the same relationship u already had 5 yrs ago..
so what's the point?

i do get ur point..but what if...u're not looking for excitment.....u do find the "new" one really really compitable...doing and sharing from broing stuff to excitment???? on the other hand..u two can be really friends...and love at the same time?? is that wasting?

[tonari]

最初由 RoadDog 發表


I think it's all up to you, but never make any excuses/lies just to break up with someone, just tell the truth....

wouldn't that make your partner feel better in excuses? not lies....understanding is good! but hard to tell the truth sometimes...!

[water]

最初由 tonari 發表



i do get ur point..but what if...u're not looking for excitment.....u do find the "new" one really really compitable...doing and sharing from broing stuff to excitment???? on the other hand..u two can be really friends...and love at the same time?? is that wasting?

i dont mean excitment literally la..^^*
when i say excitment i mean new, different, u know?
after 5 yrs u are basically numbed by the lifestyle u have with ur lover..
but the lifestyle with the new person would be different from what u have already had with ur lover...
u know what i mean?
everyone needs some change sometime...
that's why ppl are more attracted to new and different things/person...




i am saying this from an exprienced view..
i personally broke up with my bf for a new guy that i felt was compitable with me...
but that didnt really tuned out, i didnt know the person well enough...
all the compitablity was just a thin layer of his personility...something that i saw when i just met him..
but under that...there're a lot of incompitability...
more so then my bf...
so really..unless u really really know the new person well..and u still cant help it but fall for him/her more then u love ur lover..then i wouldnt recommend breaking up...but if u JUST know this new person...plz think abt it..is he/she really that good? more importantly is he/she really compitable..:)

[|3uggiE]

我總覺得....我會腳踏兩條船 試試再說.. -_-"
不然就搞曖昧 if i meet someone that 腐蝕了我的理智
oh no.. dun call me bitch..~_~"....
　
but in ur case. i think i'll be fds with the guy first..
fds can share feelings and have fun together bah
又不是一定要男女朋友才能怎樣怎樣的..
畢竟五年不容易啊.. 想想 沒了新鮮感還撐得下去的情侶不多吧..

[RSX]

最初由 tonari 發表



i do get ur point..but what if...u're not looking for excitment.....u do find the "new" one really really compitable...doing and sharing from broing stuff to excitment???? on the other hand..u two can be really friends...and love at the same time?? is that wasting?

hmmm... no offense...


but why are you asking ppl here the question?
i think you already have some kinda of answer key to this problem... :)


do it your way... don't bother listening to what other ppl think...


BUT... hopefully... wish you NOT regretting... :)

[RSX]

最初由 |3uggiE 發表
but in ur case. i think i'll be fds with the guy first..
fds can share feelings and have fun together bah
又不是一定要男女朋友才能怎樣怎樣的..
畢竟五年不容易啊.. 想想 沒了新鮮感還撐得下去的情侶不多吧..

agree with this part... :good:


maybe the 主角 of the story doesn't really know if it is just excitement from both parties.... and that just makes everything look better than current relationship with his/her gf/bf....


mostly... 當局者迷... and they don't really wanna hear any word which is against his/her thought...


if the new one is really compatible then why not going for it and making it as a gamble/bet...
if he/she wins... it's all good...
if he/she loses... well... it's another lesson... but just poor the old one who is dumped for this non-sense if it appears to be a non-sense after going for the new one...


crap... my fxxken english skills... +_+"

[tonari]

最初由 water 發表


i dont mean excitment literally la..^^*
when i say excitment i mean new, different, u know?
after 5 yrs u are basically numbed by the lifestyle u have with ur lover..
but the lifestyle with the new person would be different from what u have already had with ur lover...
u know what i mean?
everyone needs some change sometime...
that's why ppl are more attracted to new and different things/person...




i am saying this from an exprienced view..
i personally broke up with my bf for a new guy that i felt was compitable with me...
but that didnt really tuned out, i didnt know the person well enough...
all the compitablity was just a thin layer of his personility...something that i saw when i just met him..
but under that...there're a lot of incompitability...
more so then my bf...
so really..unless u really really know the new person well..and u still cant help it but fall for him/her more then u love ur lover..then i wouldnt recommend breaking up...but if u JUST know this new person...plz think abt it..is he/she really that good? more importantly is he/she really compitable..:)

Yeah, i know what you mean now...thanks!!!!!

[tonari]

最初由 RSX 發表


hmmm... no offense...


but why are you asking ppl here the question?
i think you already have some kinda of answer key to this problem... :)


do it your way... don't bother listening to what other ppl think...


BUT... hopefully... wish you NOT regretting... :)

yeah...thought about it before posting it...but i've been flip-flopping about this for quite a while now....knowing the consequences for my two options.....sometimes...reading and sharing with y'all 大 哥 。 大姐 and "experiences" can be good advice and guidance!!!!!