[tonari]

If you've been with your 愛 人 for 5 yrs and it's been a stable ,commiting relationship . But one day, you're starting to discover someone is more compatible than your 愛 人 - as in sharing thoughts, feelings, (just a lot of similarities), and also, have big party fun too. And you do a lot with that "someone" more than your 愛 人 because 愛 人 is not much of an outdoor/explore type.

I guess the bottom line is, would you breakup with your 愛 人 for that someone?

Or 可 以 忍 心 ending a 5 yr relationship ma??

Would you tell your 愛 人 the truth or use an excuse to breakup?

thanks y'all

[benyaoguai]

it really all depend's on what this relationship's at~~


5 yrs
the relationship could be really boring~~~


and.. if there's no more sparks...
if 愛情 is totally turned into 感情
then i'd probably be honest~~~
and tell it to da person...
then discuss~~~


but really .. it's hard to say.. really gotta see where the relationship's at

[christyrisu]

最初由 benyaoguai 發表
it really all depend's on what this relationship's at~~


5 yrs
the relationship could be really boring~~~


and.. if there's no more sparks...
if 愛情 is totally turned into 感情
then i'd probably be honest~~~
and tell it to da person...
then discuss~~~


but really .. it's hard to say.. really gotta see where the relationship's at

me totaly agree!

[tonari]

最初由 benyaoguai 發表
it really all depend's on what this relationship's at~~


5 yrs
the relationship could be really boring~~~


and.. if there's no more sparks...
if 愛情 is totally turned into 感情
then i'd probably be honest~~~
and tell it to da person...
then discuss~~~


but really .. it's hard to say.. really gotta see where the relationship's at

what do u mean depends on where the relationship is at?
u mean, the stage of the relationship as in settlement? Marriage?

[benyaoguai]

it's not very simple to explain


it's da feel of both party
how they both feel about their relationship~~~



like.. u said they're stable~~ are they stable boring?
or stable in love? or stable just care about each other?!

[bigbigpooh]

how about if both of them care each other just like they care their family member?

[water]

in 5 yrs..u'll know ur lover very well..
u'll know what he/her pet peves are and what he/she like to drink in the morning and so on..
and when a new person u JUST met..
turns out to be almost like u..(only different gender)
it's all new and exciting...
but is it worth jepordizing ur current relationship??



i wouldnt break up the 5 yr relationship..
i mean u spend 5 yrs in that relationship for a reason...
new ppl can always be exciting..
but the excitment dies down..
just like when u first met ur lover..he/she was probablly exciting..
and that's what attracted u to him/her...
but u know what..if u break up with ur lover and go for the new person..
5 yrs later u'll find urself in the same place again..
and u'll have wasted another 5 yr building the same relationship u already had 5 yrs ago..
so what's the point?

[death_kami]

same thing i said to everyone "follow what your soul wants"

[MB4]

最初由 tonari 發表
If you've been with your 愛 人 for 5 yrs and it's been a stable ,commiting relationship .

if its a stable, commiting relationship as u said, i would just stick with her

but like benyaoguai says, how do u mean stable? stable happy or boring?

最初由 tonari 發表
And you do a lot with that "someone" more than your 愛 人 because 愛 人 is not much of an outdoor/explore type
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sounds like u are more like an outdoor/explore type. so u been going out with not so outdoor 愛 人
do u ever complain to yourself or to her in these time ?



anyways , pretty tough call .. ok im out of words.. got a fever and just ook T3 ... head is spinning now:spin:

[RoadDog]

最初由 tonari 發表
Would you tell your 愛 人 the truth or use an excuse to breakup?

I think it's all up to you, but never make any excuses/lies just to break up with someone, just tell the truth....