[Smellyt0fu]

My dad and I are like oil and water at the moment. I rarely speak to him, nor does he speak to me. I don't know what else to say or what topic to say coz everything I say is totally the opposite to what he likes. He hates modern music, I hate listening to Wilson Phillips (that US girl singing group), I hate watching CCTV4 (that China channel), he sits on that channel at every single moment, I like cars, he couldn't give a shXt about it, I changed my job and worked there for 2 days, he goes and tells me to look at another job... plus I think he isn't so crash hot about my gf (which I really don't care coz at least I have my mum's support)....


I really don't know what to do... I dunno what to say to him anymore.. it's like I don't even know him now coz everything I do is never good enough for him. I get 93/100 in my overall final for my high school result.. he isn't happy... I graduate from Uni... not happy.... and I bet I graduate from my MBA in June, he'll still be not happy. I think most of the problem stems from the fact that I've accepted that I'll never make him proud. Well, not that I know or even feel from him.


Now I love my gf~soon-to-be-wife ... and I know I'd end up with her but it'll be hard on me to share my happiness that I've found "the one" with my dad. Even if I have kids in the future, it won't be another proud moment in his life (i.e. to have grand kids)....


What do you do..... what do you do......

[abcdefghijk]

雖然我只有二十歲但希望我的建議可以幫到你。
我不能完全了解你的situation但我希望告訴你我的situa
tion 後你會有不同的看法。

我媽媽是一個很傳統的女性。 她頭腦簡單﹐但又很怕吃虧。 她常常都會跟我說﹐“abcdefghijk, 你長大不要跟你阿姨她們一樣... 她們很精的... 常常在別人背後說他們的壞話。”
但誰不會說其他人的是非呢﹖ 難道我媽媽當時不是在說她們的是非嗎﹖
我媽媽總覺得其他人很壞﹐但如果你同意我的看法的話...其實這個世界就是這樣。
不論我如何開解她,她總是說﹐“我就是這樣。” 時時讓我覺得很無力。

但我知道一件事﹐那就是... 我媽媽已經這樣的過了她的大半生了。 要她改的話﹐實在不太可能.... 但我所能做到的也只是聽聽她發發擾燒。

不要太過於強求他去改變....畢竟他是這樣過了他的大半生。 你現在能做的也只是做好自己當兒子的角色。

如果有說錯的請多多包含^^ 畢竟我才只有二十歲而以。
GOOD LUCK! Wish you all the best and get your MBS soon!
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[righ]

hey....do wut u wanna do and be proud of it okay~
me is proud of u too.....:)

[XtraOrdinary]

Hey you know, I used to have bad relationship with my father as well, and I can totaly understand how you want him to be proud of you. But he is your father, and I doubt any father is truely 'unproud' of their children, especialy one that sounds pretty successful to me. Have you tried telling him how you feel? How you want to feel that he is proud of you? It takes alot to just confront emotions, and maybe he doesn't know how to express his feelings... And I think for sure you can develop a certain similarity in something... I mean..... even if you really have to try hard ?

Hang in there my brother.... I believe Love will surcomb all!

[XtraOrdinary]

By the way congradulations to you and your fiancee.... Isn't marriage just the most wonderful thing in the world that can happen?!?!?! Good luck

[Itchy]

Ask your mom for advice. No one knows your dad better than her.

[abcdefghijk]

最初由 Itchy 發表
Ask your mom for advice. No one knows your dad better than her.

No offences but, that's not always the case~

[Itchy]

最初由 abcdefghijk 發表


No offences but, that's not always the case~

It's alrite. I don't mind. Whatever that will solve tofu's problem. :)

[vtec91]

ai~ 我爸還罵我不孝子因為我不去聽傳銷的演講 -_-.... 我小學時是每天被打, 一個禮拜見不到2次面... 但是想想他是我爸,wut can I do~
賣各ㄚ內帕我媽媽~ 難到你手不會痛嗎?

[RSX]

最初由 Smellyt0fu 發表
My dad and I are like oil and water at the moment. I rarely speak to him, nor does he speak to me. I don't know what else to say or what topic to say coz everything I say is totally the opposite to what he likes. He hates modern music, I hate listening to Wilson Phillips (that US girl singing group), I hate watching CCTV4 (that China channel), he sits on that channel at every single moment, I like cars, he couldn't give a shXt about it, I changed my job and worked there for 2 days, he goes and tells me to look at another job... plus I think he isn't so crash hot about my gf (which I really don't care coz at least I have my mum's support)....


I really don't know what to do... I dunno what to say to him anymore.. it's like I don't even know him now coz everything I do is never good enough for him. I get 93/100 in my overall final for my high school result.. he isn't happy... I graduate from Uni... not happy.... and I bet I graduate from my MBA in June, he'll still be not happy. I think most of the problem stems from the fact that I've accepted that I'll never make him proud. Well, not that I know or even feel from him.


Now I love my gf~soon-to-be-wife ... and I know I'd end up with her but it'll be hard on me to share my happiness that I've found "the one" with my dad. Even if I have kids in the future, it won't be another proud moment in his life (i.e. to have grand kids)....


What do you do..... what do you do......

we got the same shxt here...


the only i can do is to keep smiling when seeing him while he gives me shxt look...


u know... we can't really do anything about it unless he wants to change his attitude first...


becuz whatever i say... he doesn't give a damn....
whatever my brothers say... he pays lots of attention...


so.... this is nothing we can do unless he changes....
this is about me...