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[XtraOrdinary]

Used to be I will choose to love someone. But it just hurts when the love is not returned. Wouldn't being loved be much nicer?? I actualy don't know.....

[XtraOrdinary]

最初由 eventide 發表
愛人..


被一個你不愛的人愛..
不一定幸福..

愛一個不愛你的人 ne??
一定不幸福

[A8633]

well... from what i've seen..
情竇初開的人 通常都會選擇勇往直前. 不介意付出比收穫多
而當他們受到傷害後 都會失去以前那種拼勁
到最後就會懷疑自己以前對感情的態度
(eg. 是否太愚蠢了?)
又或者傷害太深 怕再次受到傷害
因此會選擇被愛
這是因為自我保護的程式被啟動了
還是因為人的潛意識本來就是自私﹖

[A8633]

from the current survey trend ..
seems like both males and females will choose to be loved by someone.
so i guess...
these ppl do have their own ways to deal with the guilty feeling..??

[water]

最初由 A8633 發表
well... from what i've seen..
情竇初開的人 通常都會選擇勇往直前. 不介意付出比收穫多
而當他們受到傷害後 都會失去以前那種拼勁
到最後就會懷疑自己以前對感情的態度
(eg. 是否太愚蠢了?)
又或者傷害太深 怕再次受到傷害
因此會選擇被愛
這是因為自我保護的程式被啟動了
還是因為人的潛意識本來就是自私﹖

that's kinda wut happened to me..
i got hurt once..so i choose to be loved by someone..
but then...knowing that i was hurting someone felt even worst then myself hurting..
so i went back to choosing loving someone..
but it dont matter now..
i am in the relationship where both members return eachother's love..:)

[water]

最初由 A8633 發表
from the current survey trend ..
seems like both males and females will choose to be loved by someone.
so i guess...
these ppl do have their own ways to deal with the guilty feeling..??

i think it's kinda interesting to see that for girl..the diff between being loved and loving someone is so little..
while for the guys it's such a big diff (compared to girls)...
i wonder why~

[XtraOrdinary]

最初由 water 發表


i think it's kinda interesting to see that for girl..the diff between being loved and loving someone is so little..
while for the guys it's such a big diff (compared to girls)...
i wonder why~

Maybe guys need to be loved, more than their need to love someone?

Maybe guys get hurt more, when their love is not returned?

[A8633]

最初由 XtraOrdinary 發表
Maybe guys need to be loved, more than their need to love someone?

is that really so?
is it becoz they were always being taught to protect other ppl by sacraficing themselves, therefore, they need to be loved even more???

最初由 XtraOrdinary 發表
Maybe guys get hurt more, when their love is not returned?

well... i guess not all guys are like that ba...
and some girls do get hurt more when their love is not returned too???
also.. some guys just "diverse their investments"...if this girl doens't accpet him....then he always has other backups....:shakehead .... i really don't know whether this is a smart idea or a selfish idea.....sigh.

[A8633]

最初由 water 發表


i think it's kinda interesting to see that for girl..the diff between being loved and loving someone is so little..
while for the guys it's such a big diff (compared to girls)...
i wonder why~

i think for the girls..
individual differences do exist..
take me as an example..
the diff. between being loved and loving someone is very big.... i just can't being with someone whom i have no strong feeling at all....
i don't know if this attitude will still take place 10 years later.. but at least for now.. i prefer to love someone rather than being loved