[benyaoguai]

DON'T KNOW IF THIS HAD BEEN POSTED OR NOT @.@


OKAY
BASICALLY IT'S THIS..
HOW LONG DO YOU THINK IT'S THE APPRORIATE AMOUNT OF TIME AFTER ENDING OF A RELATIONSHIP TO SEEK FOR THE NEXT?


當然這種事情是可遇不可求
也不說說找了就一定找的到...


但是太長換戀人的人或是分手後馬上又有新戀情的人往往都會受到某些程度的批評~~

你們認為呢?!
你們又都等多久才會呢?!


more specifically~
how long after you get over ur ex would u seek for the next relationship?
sounds odd~~ but~ for me~ even if i'm over my ex~ doesn't nessarily mean i'll seek for the next relationship
moving on... doesn't always require a new relationship~
simply just not caught up with those stuff~~


so ~~ wat u guys say?
after already got over the ex.. should just move on right away? or wait a while still?

[CK]

IMO at least 1/2 an year to avoid criticism


about all the other stuffs, everybody has different opinions.

[XtraOrdinary]

Everyone is different... Some people put more feelings into a relationship, some people put less.... while yet some people put more feelings but are better at controlling it, and can move on faster. I agree, that moving on doesn't mean one needs to get into another relationship. As for how long after ending a relationship??? I have no personal experience and I am about to find out for the first time... but I think, as soon as I am over the past relationship, not matter how long/soon it is, I would be ready for the next... and I absolutely HATE other people's criticism.... because other people can NEVER know the FULL story, cannot understand what you feel inside.... so who are they to judge what is too soon? what is too long? So in my humble opinion, as long as one is over the past relationship, one can start getting into another one if one wishes.... What we decide to do with our life is legit, but Life is too short to always let what other people feel dictate too much of our life...

[XtraOrdinary]

You know... I just realized I wrote all that just to convince myself........

[didalila]

doesn't matter.. and who cares what other people says ( if you are not doing this ALL the time). Just go for it~! ( I'd say, if your old relationship is absolutely full of bad memories, nah, just start a new one right away, if you think the guy is RIGHT for you). It's all up to you right? yea~ so the gap is up to you to measure.. 1 hour ~ 100 years, pick a time in between, it's all good!

[鬼葬]

ya... if if find one u like and think he/she is the right one.. just go for it.

[benyaoguai]

最初由 XtraOrdinary 發表
You know... I just realized I wrote all that just to convince myself........

yeah =.= i realized that

[benyaoguai]

well~~ okay~~
cuz we do see the cases that~~ even the person don't like the ex~
he/she still just won't go for any relationsihp after a while..



like~~ tihs movie
dog park~ i think that's the name...



this guy... had pretty much always had gf all da time~~
in the end.. he broke up with this girl~
then.... though there's this next girl~~
he decided to not even go on a date for at least a hundred days..
just to learn that he can live without a relationship~
what i'm saying is~
well~~ related to my orginal question but probably not entirely +_+


is it necessary to wait?! or maybe better to wait..
even if you see the next target right after a relationship..
or better yet.. over the previous relationsip~
say no feelings already~

[XtraOrdinary]

Hmmmm you know, come to think of it I agree that it is a good idea for me to wait... In my case, I have been in a relationship for quite a period of time. So I am used to the lifestyle of someone being there for me. And since than, I have to adjust to this new lifestyle of being alone, and live without a relationship. Maybe taking some time, even after moving on, just to get comfortable with being single, is a better way to go. Maybe this way I can know that I am really in love with the next person, instead of being in love with being in love......

[benyaoguai]

最初由 XtraOrdinary 發表
Hmmmm you know, come to think of it I agree that it is a good idea for me to wait... In my case, I have been in a relationship for quite a period of time. So I am used to the lifestyle of someone being there for me. And since than, I have to adjust to this new lifestyle of being alone, and live without a relationship. Maybe taking some time, even after moving on, just to get comfortable with being single, is a better way to go. Maybe this way I can know that I am really in love with the next person, instead of being in love with being in love......

*clap clap~~


u do that :shurg: