[阿陶]

i am not sure who wrote this, but whoever u r...thank u man..

so here it is, if u r a nice guy, this is for u!

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ode to nice guys

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice
guys that finish last, that never become more
than friends, that endure hours of whining and
bitching about what *******s guys are, while
disproving the very point. This is dedicated to
those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean
on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs,
those guys who hold open doors and give
reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently
outside the changing room at department stores.
This is in honor of the guys that obligingly
reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy
their female friends are at the appropriate
moment, because they know most girls need that
litany of support. This is in honor of the guys
with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with
honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who
respect a girl's every facet, from her privacy
to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk,
bewildered female friends back from parties and
never take advantage once they are at her door,
for the guys who accompany girls to bars as
buffers against the rest of the creepy male
population, for the guys who know a girl is
fishing for compliments but give them out
anyway, for the guys who always play by the
rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters,
for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend
material but somehow don't end up being
boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are
overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated,
for all the nice guys who are manipulated,
misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent
messages on your cell phone, and when you called
her back, she spent three hours painstakingly
dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to
her over dinner. And even though you thought her
boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured
her that it was all ok and she shouldn't worry
about it. This is for that time she interrupted
the best killing spree you've ever orchestrated
in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically
linked her and the guy she thinks is the most
repulsive person in the world. And even though
you thought it was immature and you had nothing
against the guy, you paused the game for two
hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to
spread around the floor. This is also for that
time she didn't have a date, so after numerous
vows that there was nothing "serious" between
the two of you, she dragged you to a party where
you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she
flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each
fit of reckless teasing by announcing to
everyone: "oh, but we are just friends!" And even
though you were invited purely as a symbolic
warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because
you are nice like that.

The nice guys don't often get credit where
credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the
nice guys don't seem to get laid as often as
they should. And I wish I could logically
explain this trend, but I can't. From what I
have observed on campus and what I have learned
from talking to friends at other schools and in
the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is
that many girls are just illogical, manipulative
bitches. Many of them claim they just want to
date a nice guy, but when presented with such a
specimen, they say irrational, confusing things
such as "oh, he's too nice to date" or "he would
be a good boyfriend but he's not for me" or "he
already puts up with so much from me, I couldnt
possibly ask him out!" or the most frustrating
of all: "no, it would ruin our friendship." Yet,
they continue to lament the lack of dateble men
in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-
date male friends to sympathize and apologize
for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls
like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I
can't figure out why the connection breaks down
between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and
what they do (I am going to sleep with this
complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is
say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon
doesn't last forever. There are definitely many
girls who grow out of that train of thought and
realize they should be dating the nice guys, not
taking them for granted. The tricky part is
finding those girls, and even trickier, finding
the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a
toast to all the nice guys. You know who you
are, and I know you are sick of hearing yourself
described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of
the matter is, the world needs your patience in
the department store, your holding open of
doors, your party escorting services, your
propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile.
For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you
tolerate, for all the situations where you are
the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my
acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you.
You do have credibility in this society, and
your well deserved vindication is coming.

[SlamDunk]

好 阿 :good:

很 對

[Erruerru]

:bow: :bow: :bow: :bow:


In this month of Maxim, they have a dating related statistic on more 3,000 female readers of Marie Claire magazine.

-Why do you go out with such Jerks?
Sweet moments are even sweet: 36%
I didn't know he was a jerk 33%
So i can change him 13%
So I'm not upset when we break up 11%


so more or less girls do know that they're dating a jerk!
being the nice honourable guy just doesn't pay off anymore eh? :cry:

[pkobe8]

I say why wait for the girls to grow out of that train of thought...All the nice guys out there learn to be bad. And once you have had your fun and after a few break ups then get back to the good guy that you once were and settle down with a nice girl. We should be liberated and get laid....haha

[righ]

i'll explain y guys too nice dun get to date
when girls say they want nice guys
they want guys dat r nice to them only
not to any other ppl
a guy dat is too nice to date won't be especially nice to u when u date him
just nice like he is usually
it's hard to tell if he's nice to u cuz he likes u
or he's nice to u cuz he's nice to everyone

[pkobe8]

Nah~ the girls know you pay extra attention to her and just her. That's why they usually give you the title of her best best friend or some crap like "I feel like I can share everything with you" etc, just to give you some kind of recognition so you won't feel bad. For all the guys out there who have heard this bullshit sentence many time, I really doubt you'll have a chance with the girl you're with now. I been there before when I was in highschool. What I think the girl is doing is this, they know the good guy will stick around no matter what so they'll have their fun with all the jerks first and come crying to you after.

[righ]

Nah~ the girls know you pay extra attention to her and just her. That's why they usually give you the title of her best best friend or some crap like "I feel like I can share everything with you" etc, just to give you some kind of recognition so you won't feel bad. For all the guys out there who have heard this bullshit sentence many time, I really doubt you'll have a chance with the girl you're with now. I been there before when I was in highschool. What I think the girl is doing is this, they know the good guy will stick around no matter what so they'll have their fun with all the jerks first and come crying to you after.

well...dat's cuz u have a crush on that girl :shrug:
dat doesn't count as a "nice guy" if ur just nice cuz u like her...=_=

[blueice]

There are definitely many
girls who grow out of that train of thought and
realize they should be dating the nice guys, not
taking them for granted. The tricky part is
finding those girls, and even trickier, finding
the ones that are single.


yes yes yes...nice guys never got credit, all they got is some kind of compliments and recognition. Some kind of !@#$ statement like "oh you are such a nice guy, I'm sure u will get a girlfriend" or "一定會有很多女生喜歡你"etc.

Empty statements, like can't say " oh yah, then how come u dun come and luv me then?" :shrug:

Sick of those blank statements, 人們只是互相利用, 貪求一點不該有ㄉ溫暖; like the !@#$ why should I deal w/ ur bf problem? like analyzin' y he said what he said to u? Or callin' at 半夜一點半 cuz ur bf wanna sleep and u feel lonely, eh?

反正一個願打一個願挨, gal is a biatch, 男人又何嘗不犯賤. u noe ur !@#$ nice get u nth and is ptless, yet u keep on doin' it, 那不叫自作賤是什ㄇ? 所以要做ㄉ人就少 whine 一點, 至於那些 gals...要利用就也別說些 empty statements, 說ㄌ反而諷刺, 反正大家都不是笨蛋, 心知肚明不是ㄇ?

:shrug:

[blueice]

well...dat's cuz u have a crush on that girl :shrug:
dat doesn't count as a "nice guy" if ur just nice cuz u like her...=_=

你當男人是白痴哦? 喜歡妳ㄉ人對妳好就不是 nice?

那為什ㄇ不反問問, 對妳好ㄉ人在妳旁邊那ㄇ明顯, 為什ㄇ妳又只選那些所謂ㄉ壞男人?

反正自古下來, 女ㄉ怪男ㄉ, 男ㄉ怪女ㄉ. 女ㄉ喜歡一個男ㄉ, 對男的好得不到回應, 就說這男的不識相, 辜負ㄌ女ㄉ一片心. 男ㄉ對女ㄉ好, 得不到回應, 也該摸摸鼻子自認倒楣. 在那邊哭邀ㄉ男人真丟臉

In reality, 沒有人天生就該對你/妳好, 但是一切都是自願, 沒有強迫, 所以回報什麼的都可以免了(做人應該感恩, 但是我知道這對很多人來講要求過高). BUT! 自己要有點分寸, 別人要自動對你好, 那也罷, 不過知道別人對你好就跑去麻煩人家, that's !@#$ 自私的利用 :shrug:

[righ]

ur taking this 2 personally =_=
and by nice guys i meant 爛好人 or 好好先生
隨叫隨到 no matter who's calling

i'm not arguing for the girls
cuz those girls do exist and they disgust me
however my point is, the nice guys should say no to those girls if they gonna complain afterwards
if anyone's gonna let other ppl take advantage of them
they should just shut up about how they were being taken advatage of