[|3uggiE]

要看那個平衡點based on what..
like 物質 金錢 支配.. 佔有或被佔有 etc?
人都犯賤
就算心靈契合 也會被現實所改變

[pkphilip]

Even I seperated with my ex, I will still go back to her if she ever gives me a chance. I think it's because I am used to be with her. My female friend is my best alternative.

I don't drink, smoke, I am gentle but not rich. that puts me on 3rd floor. haha

Philip

[阿芸]

i guess this relates to what i was asking hhehe

but... how do u define "better"?

i may have something extraordinary with another guy, but he doesn't make me feel 安定

on the other hand, i feel 安定 with my current bf, but he doesn't make me feel that special

what is better?

[water]

i guess this relates to what i was asking hhehe

but... how do u define "better"?

i may have something extraordinary with another guy, but he doesn't make me feel 安定

on the other hand, i feel 安定 with my current bf, but he doesn't make me feel that special

what is better?

better is defined differently by different ppl..
it depends on wut u view as more important..
in my view 安定 is more important than special..
but in other ppl's view it might be different~

[blue_rain]

i think i heard a similar story.. it was about a dad telling his son to go find the tallest tree in the forest.. but he cannot turn back
i guess it's the same theory ^^"??

well. when we fight, i might htink that.. "maybe we're not so great after all, maybe i can find someone whos even more compatible with me"
but thats only when im mad...
when i think it through i realyl think that he is THE ONE.
somehow i dun evne like talking to guys as much ever since i met him.
i dun find it even necessary to meet more ppl/guys..
my social circle is incredibly small compared to before
but im totally fine with it. i have my parents, i have a few best friends, i have him. they're enough to make me totally happy with my life.

what happenz when sometimes even when you're not mad and you still think that he might not be it? what then...?

[blue_rain]

Heard about a similar story:

A girl walked into a big shop, the sales on 1st floor tells her that she can pick up any guy for sale in the shop, but once she goes up the floor she can't turn around.

1st Floor: Guys who don't drink and smoke
(hmm..decent, but let's check upstairs)

2nd Floor: Guys who don't drink, smoke plus kind and gentle
(hmm...nicer than 1st floor, what's 3rd floor?)

3rd Floor: Guy who don't drink, smoke, and is kind and gentle, plus rich!
(wow, it keeps getting better! the girl decides to go on 4th floor)

4th Floor: Guy who don't drink, smoke, and is kind and gentle, rich and also handsome!
(what's on 5th floor?)

The girl went up the 5th floor, the gate closed behind her and the 5th floor is EMPTY. There's only an elevator out to the parking with a sign saying, "Too bad, you missed your chance, now get out of here, alone!"

now in that story there's a point of reference...something to compare to and it's b/c of that comparison that she keeps searching for something better thinking that there's osmething better on the 'next floor'. what happendz if there's no point of reference, or if the point of reference isn't clear? how do u tell then?

[blue_rain]

i guess this relates to what i was asking hhehe

but... how do u define "better"?

i may have something extraordinary with another guy, but he doesn't make me feel 安定

on the other hand, i feel 安定 with my current bf, but he doesn't make me feel that special

what is better?

i wonder the same...

i bet some ppl would say follow your heart...
but does that really work?? my heart doesn't tell me anything! my brain is the dominating one and when u have something that's not...'tangible'...how do u decide what's better? it's not like u can put #s to it and add it up....

[vvn1217]

i only think he's not the one when im pissed... ^^"